When you stalk someone on Facebook

If you’ve ever been in a new relationship, you’re probably aware of the sudden surge of interest your partner takes in your social media activity. They might begin checking your Instagram or Facebook often, or maybe they even begin “liking” your pictures.

These actions are not only weird but also creepy AF—and there’s a good reason for that. Stalking someone on their social media is seriously one of the creepiest things to do when you first meet someone.
In this article, we will explain why creeping on someone on social media is a bad idea and what the consequences are if you choose to do so anyway.

Why is it creepy to stalk someone on social media?

Social media platforms like Instagram or Facebook are designed for people to share and connect with one another. This is especially true for dating relationships, where people often use these platforms to meet and introduce themselves to each other.

When you begin following someone on social media, you are communicating to them that you find them interesting and/or valuable enough to follow their activities. You should expect that they, in turn, will find you equally as interesting and follow you back.
You may think that you’re just being a conscientious person by stalking your date on social media, but this is a huge red flag.

When you begin stalking your date on social media, you’re revealing that you’re not really interested in a real relationship. You’re interested in them as a person, but you don’t want to be seen by them as a person. You want to remain a mystery.

What does stalking on social media involve?

Stalking is defined as the act of following someone covertly or obsessively, especially with the intent to commit criminal harm against them.

Stalking on social media is when you begin obsessively tracking your date’s every move on social media, hoping to glean information that you don’t already have about them.

Stalking is often motivated by feelings of insecurity or fear of rejection. You may be stalking your date because you’re not sure if they’re interested in you on a romantic level, or because you’re not sure if they’re a good person.
Stalking is also often accompanied by strong feelings of obsession. You may find yourself getting angry when your date appears to be ignoring you, or getting anxious when they appear to be ignoring you for a long time.
When you stalk your date on social media, you’re hoping to find out information about them that you wouldn’t be able to get from just talking to them.
What you’re actually doing, however, is revealing that you’re not really interested in a relationship with this person. You’re interested in using this person to make yourself feel better.

The dangers of stalking on social media

Stalking someone on social media is extremely counterproductive to building a genuine relationship with them. Besides the fact you’re clearly trying to avoid the person, stalking someone on social media is also an invasion of privacy.

Stalking someone on social media is a form of cyberbullying. It shows that you have no respect for the person on a personal level. You probably don’t even think of them as a real person. Stalking someone on social media also gives the other person permission to stalk you back, which can be just as hurtful and harmful as the stalking that you’re doing.

Stalking someone on social media is also an invasion of their personal space. This can cause the person to feel unsafe, anxious, and trapped.

Stalking someone on social media also gives the person a false sense of who you are as a person. You may think that you’re getting a good idea of who this person is, but in reality, you’re getting a very one-sided view of them.

How to know if you’re being stalked on social media

Stalking someone on social media is a red flag. If you notice that your date is looking at your social media and they aren’t following you back, they may be stalking you. If your date is looking at your social media but they aren’t following you back, they may be stalking you. If your date is looking at your social media but they are also following you back and actively engaging with your posts, they are not stalking you.

If your date only looks at your posts and doesn’t follow you back, they may be secretly stalking you. If your date only looks at your posts but doesn’t comment, like, or share them, they are not stalking you. If your date only looks at your posts but doesn’t follow you back, they are either trying to avoid being stalked back or they are stalking you.

If your date only looks at your posts but doesn’t follow you back, they are either trying to avoid being stalked back or they are stalking you. If your date only looks at your posts but doesn’t follow you back, they are either trying to avoid being stalked back or they are stalking you.

Social media is an incredible way to communicate and meet new people, but it’s also a very public forum. We often forget that when we’re on social media, we are presenting the best and most ideal versions of ourselves. This doesn’t mean that you can’t genuinely like someone, but it does mean that you should probably be cautious about meeting them.

You don’t know who this person is in real life, and you should probably take your time meeting them as a result. There’s no need to rush into anything, especially if you’re dating someone who is stalking you on social media.

Stalking and harassment in the early stages of dating

If you’re engaging in stalking or harassment in the early stages of dating, you’re probably not a good person and you definitely don’t belong in a romantic relationship. Although some people have been known to date stalkers and/or harassers without knowing it, you don’t have to be with someone like this.

If you’ve recently met someone and they start stalking or harassing you, however, it’s up to you to set a boundary and let them know this isn’t acceptable. You may not be able to get them to stop altogether, but you can try to limit the amount of stalking and harassment that you experience.

The early stages of dating can be scary and confusing, but you don’t have to let your fears turn you into a bad person. If you notice that your new partner is stalking you or harassing you, it’s up to you to set a boundary. You don’t have to put up with this type of behaviour, and you definitely don’t have to let it ruin your life.

If you’ve been engaging in stalking or harassment in the early stages of dating, it’s time to reevaluate your relationship. You probably don’t belong in a romantic relationship, and you need to get help.